So you’re taking the 30 day sex challenge, and you’re single. So no sex for 30 days. But what does that mean, exactly? The question in todays guide really got me thinking. I think one of the problems that we, as a culture (and more specifically ME) have, is the idea of the line in the sand. As singles, we can easily spend too much thought and time on trying to figure out where this line is. You ask yourself “what constitutes as sex,” or, “how far is too far?” But, I’m starting to realize that’s the wrong way to think about things. Instead of trying to see what we can “get” or how far we can go, I think it’s time we start honoring each other. I admit, I don’t know exactly what that looks like, but I’m ok with that. I’ve lived the alternative, and it got me inching to the line, then peaking past it, and finally running through it and apologizing later. I don’t want to do that anymore. One of the things I’m most excited about in this challenge is learning how to show someone that I am in this for them, not for me. If you’re like me, most of your relationships look like something out of a counting crows song, a little sad (or maybe a lot) and a little messed up (ha, or maybe a lot). I have been so encouraged by hanging around my married friends, and them showing me the right way to do it. They prove to me it is possible to have a real, loving relationship. They are a living, breathing example of the other thing I feel we are offering singles at our church… and that’s hope.
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Well said, Jarrett. I don’t understand what problem Christians like our anonymous heckler here could have with what you’re saying. Relevant is clearly teaching abstinence outside marriage.
In this day and age, abstinence is one of the toughest principles for young Christians to live out. I say kudos to Paul and crew for tackling it head on. What better way to show singles how to view relationships and encourage us to “keep our eyes on the prize,” if you will, than to do a series that allows singles to see what marriage ought to be like?
I think the 30 Day Sex Challenge is great, it’s a bold move that will positively affect singles, encouraging them to remain abstinent before marriage and giving much needed encouragement and affirmation to those who have to continuously struggle to remain so, and it will certainly help make marriages stronger.
I <3 Relevant!
Travis
Anonymous… 30 days is statistically what is necessary to form a new habit…. Hmm.. Think the team knew about that when they made it a 30 day challenge, and not a 10 day challenge..
Don’t knock what you haven’t tried. What the podcast and you’ll get some clarification on where Relevant is coming from on this.
I agree with John Doe
Singles shouldn’t be having sex out of wedlock at all.
I agree with 40 year old virgin.
I think a relevantchurch.com branded chastity belt would be a great way to spread the gospel.
Im Glad you agree Watchman.
So does Jesus.
Here Im not anonymous anymore.
I totally agree with Travis but its like the condom thing.
If schools hand out condoms to elementary kids they will attempt things with them. I am talking about those who can stumble by hearing such things. Not those who are already in sin.
Also those who don’t have an intense hate for sin will have sex but those who hate their sin will despise sex before marriage. If your saved you will despise sin right?
Im sorry for being rude before. But I dont agree with 30 days to a new habit. Why cant you save the people first and have them despise sin through the Holy Spirit and then they will know to abstain from sex.
Its seems you are putting the cart before the horse. Seeker friendly churches don’t get the repentance part of salvation and I am upset to see people still loving their sin.
Also I know for a fact that the singles that have not repented will be so full of sexual urge after the 30 days, I think it wont stick.
Sin Sin Sin.
I agree Joe A.
Been checking out this site from Canada (yup - we heard about the challenge here too). To say that Christians = hating of sin = no premarital sex is a little naive, isn’t it? Especially in this day and age. There are LOTS of saved non-married couples who are engaging in pre-marital sex and not feeling a lot of guilt about it, especially if they are in a “committed” relationship. A 30-day moratorium on their lust/passion might be just what they need to actually TALK about the issue, and other issues that may be holding them back from what God really wants - a committed married relationship.
I know. Whenever my pastor talked about not having sex pre-marriage my girlfriend and I (mostly her) would feel guilty for a day or two, and then we’d get back to it. We’re now married, and looking back, a 30-day moratorium AND a daily guide might have been just what we needed to gain proper perspective, and we might have actually moved along the path toward marriage sooner.