It’s been an interesting day in the world of the 30-day sex challenge. I’ve had many phone calls and e-mails from literally all over the world about how this challenge affects single adults. The two most common questions have been “what’s the point of encouraging singles to be abstinent for only 30 days?” and “what’s the point of encouraging abstinence altogether?”. I’d like to take a minute and give some explanation. For a lot of single adults, the idea of abstinence has never even been a considerable thought. Sexual activity has become a norm…a regular part in the progression of a relationship or simply a consistently casual activity with whoever, whenever. Our challenge is that us single adults would take 30 days to consider God’s way and remove sex from the equation to focus on who we are, who we are becoming and what is truly defining our relationships. Tragically, for many single adults, sex is the only bond of a relationship leading to complications and emotional emptiness. My hope is that in 30 days, this idea of saving sex for the right context would become a lifestyle that leads to great, healthy relationships.
I actually had the opportunity today to talk to the author of one of the books we recommend in our 30-day guide for singles; her name is Dawn Eden. Her book is aptly titled “The Thrill of the Chaste: Finding Fulfillment While Keeping Your Clothes On.” I have been inspired by much of what she says in her book (which I will be sharing more of as the days go by) about truly finding fulfillment in who you are and without sex as a part of the dating relationship. I would encourage you to check it out, take the 30-day challenge and hopefully see the point in doing life and relationships God’s way.
Paul and I do NOT claim to be marriage counselors. We just share from our personal experience and from the Bible. Still, we know that many people need professional counseling especially after going through the extensive emotional needs questionnaire, so we want to direct you to the www.marriagebuilders.com site where Dr. Willard Harley and his team locate counselors for you in your local area.
Please let us know if you still cannot locate someone to help professionally after visiting this site, we truly want to help in this area.
Sincerely,
Susie and Paul Wirth
We believe that the Bible is clear on how we love. It is through our teacher’s example, Jesus. read it for yourself in 1 John 4:7-21
4:7-21
[7] Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is born of God and knows God. [8] But anyone who does not love does not know God—for God is love.
[9] God showed how much he loved us by sending his only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. [10] This is real love. It is not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.
[11] Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. [12] No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love has been brought to full expression through us.
[13] And God has given us his Spirit as proof that we live in him and he in us. [14] Furthermore, we have seen with our own eyes and now testify that the Father sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. [15] All who proclaim that Jesus is the Son of God have God living in them, and they live in God. [16] We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in him.
God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them. [17] And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we are like Christ here in this world.
In a nutshell, man has a problem, called sin that separates us from God. We can only connect to God and learn how to love, when we understand that God’s Son, Jesus died on the cross to pay for our sins (remember sin separates us from God) When we confess our sin and believe that Jesus is who He says He is and came and died for us, we then can understand true love. Just think, God’s love is so great for us that He sent His son to live and die on earth just to demonstrate how much HE LOVES US. Wouldn’t you like to accept this love that God offers you through the forgiveness of your sins? All God asks of you is to believe this and accept it. So simple to really know and understand love. Huh?
For more of Jesus story read the Gospel of John! Please let us know if you have further questions!
Walk In Love,
Susie Wirth
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