We just received this from Mike
I have had some interesting conversations with work colleagues and friends alike on this challenge of ours. Every person I have talked to seems to have the same question for the singles challenge, “How can you truly progress in a relationship without knowing about such a large part of the relationship with physical and sexual chemistry?” Having been a sexually active single adult male, I have to admit that the thought had crossed my mind. Recently, prior to the 30-day sex challenge, I decided to leave sex out of the scenario and really focus on the woman I was interested in. I have discovered, at least in my own life, that I rushed to see how compatible I was sexually with my past relationships rather than truly getting to know the person I was with and deciding if we were really compatible as a couple.
If you haven’t considered giving this challenge a try I would highly recommend it. All there is to lose is 30 days of some hibidty-dibity, but if you have the results that I have had then you might be surprised to see how truthful you can be with yourself about your relationships. What I mean by that is simple. Before, I took this step of leaving sex out, I had been in several long term relationships where sex had been more of a focus than honestly looking at our personal differences to see if our relationship could stand on it’s own two feet without one of us having to be on our back. Good Luck.
In regards to the question: “How can you truly progress in a relationship without knowing about such a large part of the relationship with physical and sexual chemistry?”
Yeah yeah yeah…whatever. I’ve been asked that question as well, by my non-believing friends. That’s just an excuse to go further than you should in a relationship before you are married. And way too many people are falling for this one. I guess it would make some sense, if you aren’t a Christian. But seriously, if you are a true believer in Christ and have a relationship with Him then whats the problem? Do you think that if you have sex with someone you will know if you are “compatible” with them or not? What if it doesn’t work out the first time? What if something goes wrong? What if it does work out the first time, but it was a fluke and it never works out again? Not that you will only do it once if it does work out. Anyways, I will give you the same answer as I gave them, and if you react the same way they did (with a confused look, a scoff, and saying “whatever weirdo, that won’t work”) then you should talk to God about it! But if you trust God with everything, then you don’t have to worry. If God brings “Mr/Mrs Right” to you, do you think He will make it someone not compatible in any way? What I’m saying is that there is no guess work. He will bring them to you. And I promise, if you trust in Him then He will bring “Mr/Mrs Perfect” to you!! That’s not to say life will be perfect, there are hills, valleys, and mountains in every aspect of life. Stuff happens! But His plan is perfect, and so follow it!!
Sorry, I digress. Anyways, I just wanted to say that that’s a lame excuse to have sex with someone!