http://blog.relevantchurch.com/?p=40 where culture meets christ Thu, 09 Sep 2010 18:11:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 http://blog.relevantchurch.com/?p=40&cpage=1#comment-82 Aeron Thu, 28 Feb 2008 18:41:26 +0000 http://blog.relevantchurch.com/2008/02/26/almost-married/#comment-82 I'm not sure this is a good mindset to have. I'm married, and honestly, the first night was amazing (though maybe not in the way I'd expected), but I think so many abstinent Christians think that holding out on sex until the wedding night is going to make it this super-great hollywood-style night of passionate sex. It's not. It's still going to be awkward, and probably painful. So if you wait and wait (as I did), and put so much emphasis on the physical appeal of that night, I think you're doing actually exposing your marriage to a big risk, because waiting shouldn't be about that first night. It should be about all the days and nights from that point on. I’m not sure this is a good mindset to have. I’m married, and honestly, the first night was amazing (though maybe not in the way I’d expected), but I think so many abstinent Christians think that holding out on sex until the wedding night is going to make it this super-great hollywood-style night of passionate sex. It’s not. It’s still going to be awkward, and probably painful. So if you wait and wait (as I did), and put so much emphasis on the physical appeal of that night, I think you’re doing actually exposing your marriage to a big risk, because waiting shouldn’t be about that first night. It should be about all the days and nights from that point on.

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