With all of the buzz about 30 days of sex, 101 days of sex, and even 365 days of sex, we are confident that those who are looking to improve their relationship for the long-run will find that 30daysexchallenge-A Journey to Intimacy, will provide them with the knowledge and practical help that they will need in order to grow closer, not just for 30 days, but for the rest of their lives together. 30daysexchallenge takes a holistic approach to intimacy and guides the couple into four mini-challenges: spiritual, emotional, sexual, and physical. After each challenge is met the couple is ready to engage in 30 days of sex. However, the challenge is not just 30 days of sex. We have provided 30 days of questions that encourages continued intimacy in the four areas studied, and will cultivate and promote an environment of love and passion.

But don’t take our word for it. Hear what Dr. David Clarke has to say about the 30daysexchallenge-A Journey to Intimacy.

“Do you want to learn how to bond with your spouse spiritually and emotionally? Do you want a better-much better-sex life? Of course you do. I do. We all do. The 30 Day Sex Challenge will help you get the marital intimacy you’ve lost. It’s easy to read, refreshingly honest, intensely practical, and based on the Bible. Best of all, it works!”

David Clarke, Ph.D.
Christian psychologist and author of Cinderella Meets the Caveman

Well here it is guys the workout video you have all been waiting for: Paul’s very own “Sweatin to the 80’s” burst training video. Enjoy the video and have a great workout.

IMPORTANT NOTICE: Anyone beginning a workout when you have not done so in quite sometime should consult a doctor before beginning. Also, if 20 seconds is too much for you at first just do 10 seconds.

Here is a link to Dr Scotts web site. They have some more informational videos on burst training there s well.

That’s really what this challenge has been about though. It’s not been easy for everyone, including myself. So, here are some things I’ve learned on this journey:

I’ve learned my top emotional needs (a few of which are affection, attractive spouse, honesty & openness). I stepped into this part a little reluctantly because, let’s be honest, most guys don’t want to talk about emotional needs. I’m glad I did it though, because so many things make sense for me now. Such as why I’m driven to act certain ways in relationships, why I react to statements or situations the way I do, why some attitudes annoy me and why past relationships just didn’t work out.

I’ve learned that great relationships take a whole lot of work…more than I think I am willing to put in sometimes. Mostly because I’m selfish a lot. And with that, I’ve learned that I am scared to death of marriage.

I’ve learned that I need to better clarify for my relationships where the line is of going too far physically…and be mature enough to fight like crazy to not go over that line while having the right accountability to help.

I’ve learned, once again, that I am not perfect…nor will I ever be. Which, for a perfectionist is a tough lesson.

Finally, I’ve learned that a lifestyle of saving sex for marriage is not easy…sometimes I hate waiting. But, I’ve learned that sex is most rewarding, unmatched, and truly amazing when experienced in the right context.

These are just a few of the things I’ve learned. My hope is that you have learned some things about yourself as well over these past 30 days. My hope is that you will continue on this journey, continue learning, and turn 30 days into a lifestyle.

You have heard the expression like father like son. If you become your parent, how will that effect your relationships? How will you make sure that you don’t fall into the same traps your parents did?

My parents divorced in 2000. And the years just prior to that were not that spectacular for my family. Please, hear this. I have a wonderful relationship with both of my parents, and my brother. But it wasnt always like that…

I used to think the reason my parents split is because of money. After i grew and learned a little more about the situation, I learned that wasn’t it. They split because of a lack of communication, plain and simple. A lack of communication including lies, and covering things up, and being afraid to admit to each other who they were becoming. My dad kept so many things from my mom, and it got to the point where she just couldn’t trust him anymore. The thing that really breaks my heart is that I am not alone. Almost all of my friends parents are divorced, and for many of them, the story is the same. People not communicating, and that leads to hardened hearts. So i watch all of this, in my family and my friends families, and i vow to never be like that. Im gonna be different. And then of course, I get into relationships, and I do the exact same thing. And it all stems from me thinking I simply can’t let this person know who I really am. The struggles I have, the mistakes I make, the demons that haunt me. I’m obviously not married, I’m not even in a relationship right now. But I think something I’m learning is that that’s exactly what marriage is. It’s truly knowing someone. I hope and pray that if I ever meet a girl that feels she really wants to know who I am, that I won’t be afraid to show her. When I feel that little voice in my head, the voice that says she will hate me, or run away if she knows the truth about me, i won’t listen. Because history proves, that will just help me to end up alone. I think, as a christian, our relationship with Christ is the ultimate example of this. He knows everything we have done. Every good and every bad thing. It’s laughable almost, but he knows who I am and pursued me anyway!  Please hear me, HE pursued us and still does, even to the point of death on a cross. I hope that one day I will meet a girl, a real flesh and bone girl (and probably a hot one) that will feel like that about me. I just pray to God that I will be prepared for what that means, and not be afraid of letting her see.